Get your goals in check and be ready for 2021. In this episode, Patrick Veroneau talks about what you need to avoid that can derail your success when setting your goals for 2021. Get a deeper understanding of this twist to Patrick’s model, SET, and understand what are the three ingredients for success as he explores each of them. Patrick also dives into the reptilian part of your brain and how this can make or break your success. Tune in and set yourself up for success in 2021.
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What Can Derail Your Success In 2021 And How To Avoid It
In this episode, I want to talk about what we need to avoid when setting our goals for 2021. This is a twist on an episode that I do every year around goal setting. There’s a specific model that I use called SET, which is an acronym for Specific, Emotional, and Time-bound. Those are the three ingredients that I have found to be the most important and vital in regards to being able to achieve our goals. For those that may be used to organizations that they work with using SMART goals, this is an offshoot of that. I am very familiar with SMART goals, and quite honestly, I found them to be more cumbersome at times than beneficial. What I did was tried to whittle that down into the components that are most important.
I came up with these three. One being specific, which is the S, the E is the emotional, and the T is the time-bound. The S and the T are familiar to SMART. With any of the goals that we’re going to set for 2021, we need to make sure that they’re specific. What do we want to achieve? Setting a financial number might be something that I do. It might be that I want to reach many individuals. I want X number of people to go through the programs that I offer. I want to be able to work with a certain number of new accounts, whatever that might be. What’s important is to be specific on it because once I have that piece, it allows me to back into it after I’ve figured out what my time-bound is.When you make decisions based on fear, you don't make the best decisions. Click To Tweet
In terms of goals, I could set out my yearly goals, but also I can back into it and say, “If this is what I want to accomplish by the end of the year, then this is what I need to do.” These are the milestones that I need to hit between now and the first quarter, or between now and the end of the month of January 2021. Whatever that might be. I need to back into this thing as much as I can so that I can figure out what my trajectory is. That’s specific and time-bound. The emotional part is something that you don’t see in the SMART goal. To me, it’s the most important part. That’s the why. Why do I want this goal? Why do I want to have 200 more people go through my program in 2021? Why do I want to work with ten new companies? Whatever those numbers are, what’s the reason? I can come and ask myself that question five times.
It might be, why do I want to work with 200 new customers? Because I know that the program I put in place has the ability to change not only in people’s lives in their work setting, but also in their personal lives as well. Why is that important to you? After experiencing and seeing what people experienced in 2020, I know how important that is for people to be able to navigate that situation so that they have a healthy home and work life. Why is that important? Because I’ve seen the damage that’s been done. I want to be able to do my part to contribute make a difference there. Why is that important? Because I feel like I’ve been given a gift in terms of an ability to identify different behaviors that will help people live better lives and rise above their best. I want that to be my legacy.
Now, I’ve gone from a legacy. I’m creating something for a legacy that came from I want to have 200 people go through my program. The why behind that is so much stronger when it’s now about a legacy that I’m trying to create based on what I put together. We can do that for anything. I could do that for losing weight. If you think about it, I could say, “I want to lose 10 pounds.” It’s specific, “I want to lose it by January 1, 2020.” There’s a timestamp to it too. I need to do it by that time. Now I can back into it. When we get to the emotional part, I could say, “Why do you want to lose 10 pounds?” Because my youngest son is getting ready to play a sport in the spring that I used to coach, and I want to be able to coach again. I don’t feel as though I’m active enough.
Why is it important for you to coach your son? Because he’s going to be going to high school, and this is the last opportunity I’ll have to coach him and spend more time with him. Why is it important to spend more time with him? Because once he’s in high school, our time together will continue to drift apart. I want to build those roots now or continue to foster that growth now in our relationship. Why is that important to me? Because I know that once he’s out of high school and after eighteen, that if you look statistically, as sad as this sounds, I probably spent 90% of the time that I will share with him on average is what they say. That motivates me even more.
Why is that important to you? As an adult, I want to have a relationship with him that continues to flourish and that we build a legacy. I’ve gone from 10 pounds to a legacy, so that when I walk in the house and there are Oreos and an orange sitting on the table. I might be more tempted to stick with the orange than I am to be tempted by the Oreos because I look at this and say, “This is a legacy. This is what I want.” That’s the goal-setting part. If you noticed in the title of this, I said, “Here’s the part you need to control.”
I’m going to go in a different direction here and talk about our brains. Specifically, I want to talk about the reptilian part of our brain, the amygdala, which is responsible for the fight, flight or freeze. The reason I am bringing this up in 2021 and I haven’t in the past is because if there’s one thing that I have seen in 2020 is so much decision-making that’s been based out of fear. When we make decisions based out of fear, we don’t make the best decisions. Our brain is naturally wired to try and protect us. That amygdala part sets up either fight, flight or freeze. I want us to think about our brain in this way when we think about the amygdala. Think about it like a smoke detector in your house. If there was food that was burning on the stove and the smoke detector went off, what would you normally do? You’d simply go over, you’d wave something in front of the smoke detector, or maybe you’d have to take the battery out to get it to stop.
I don’t think there’s anybody reading this that would say when there was burnt food on the stove, unless there was an actual fire, that they’d ran out of the house and called 911 because the smoke detector went off. You knew it wasn’t a real emergency. You did what needed to be done to stop the smoke detector, then you went to cooking a new meal. Our brain is wired in a similar way in terms of its setting off an alarm. When it feels a threat, and this threat looks different, it could be somebody says something to us that maybe we take as an offense. That’s a threat. Maybe we say we’re going to do something. We’re going to set a goal. We’re going to do something that’s above and beyond what we’ve ever done before. Maybe I’m going to take on a new job or I’m going to start my own business.
Your brain or that smoke detector is going off saying, “We got an emergency coming up here. We need to protect this individual.” It’s trying to protect ourselves from a perceived threat that’s going to come up. We have the ability like when it’s burnt food on the table to take a step back and say, “I understand what my brain is doing. It’s making me doubt my ability to do this. It’s trying to protect me, but I don’t need this right now. This is not life-threatening. This is not a real fire. My brain is perceiving it is, but I have the ability to override this.” We need to be able to do that. This is such a powerful system in our brain.
I’ll give you a quick example of that. In our old house, when we had first moved in, the whole house is hardwired with smoke detectors. One night, one of them went off. It was malfunctioning. I was convinced that I could see smoke banking up along the ceiling. I had to get my wife out of bed to say, “Do you see anything there?” I was even fooling myself to think there is smoke there. She had to say, “No. There’s nothing there. Everything is fine.” I say that because we will try and override ourselves, or other people wanting to protect us will be that smoke detector. They will tell us, “Don’t take the risk. You’ve got such a good thing going on right now. Why would you ever take a chance or risk what you have right now? Be happy with where you are.” That’s that same smoke detector. For us to succeed in 2021, we need to get a better handle on the reptilian part of our brain so that we start making decisions on opportunities and not out of fear. The best way that I have found to do that is to strengthen your level of faith because when you strengthen your level of faith, you starve your fears.When you strengthen your level of faith, you starve your fears. Click To Tweet
It’s the best vaccine I know that prevents people from getting overtaken by fear and limiting their abilities. I hope you have found this helpful. I hope that 2021 treats you incredibly well. I know that you have the potential to make that happen. We all do when we set our goals, and they’re specific, emotional, time-bound. Also, we control that one thing in our brain that has the ability to derail us. That’s our amygdala, that smoke detector that wants to protect us but doesn’t recognize that these aren’t real threats. I wish you all the best in 2021. I can’t wait to share many more episodes with you and help you and myself to rise above our best.